As I sit and plonder what gender my twin was at birth I have really not gotten a definite answer from anyone especially my mother.

When I was 11; ths was when I found out that I was a twin. One of my brother's told me. I thought that he was joking till i asked my mam about it and they said that I had a twin but it was stillborn. I asked was it a boy or a girl, but did not get an answer from my mam. She did not want to talk anout it.

As time went on and as teenager, I kept asking and still got no real answer, though someone told me they thought it had been a boy. Yet again, I asked my mam and still no real answer. At one point, my mother said that one of my uncle's knew and to ask him. At this point, i dropped it and left it alone. I was going to ask my uncle but he passed away, so I did not get the chance.

I emigrated to hte USA and have been here 19 years and now the gender of the twin as surfaced again. One year, I went home on holiday and my family picked me up from Gatwick airport. We stopped at a halfway house on the M1 and was having breakfast,when my nephew who was about 11 then, chirped up and out of the blue said my twin was a boy. I looked at my mother and said " I does he know and I do not." She said nothing.

I am seeing a psychologist for and the twin thing came up and was asked by him What do you want from your mother? I said that I just want her to tell me the gender and thai is all. If, she says she does not know then I will have to accept her answer and get on with life. I will probably not ask my mam again.

Since 11 I have felt like I am not a complete person because of all this.
If it was a boy, we could have be identical. My GOd, another one of me walking around arrrgghh!!!!

I will not make you suffer any longer about my saga, BUT turinig 45 today is a happy and not so happy day for me. I will have fun anyway with my wife and kids.